Children go through many different stages of development some of which are more difficult to deal with than others. Some children may become so difficult to deal with at various times that it may be viewed by some people as rebellion. Just because a child is difficult however, does not necessarily that rebellion is a concern.
When a child reaches a certain age they begin to try to assert their independence. This often leads to the child testing the waters so to speak. For many parents this of course leads to frustration at their inability to control the child’s actions. What many parents fail to realize during this time is that most children honestly do not want to fight with their parents. While they may display bad behavior and refuse to comply with various rules they still look to their parents for structure and discipline. This structure allows the child to understand that some behaviors are acceptable while others are not. In order for a child to know what behaviors are unacceptable they must be taught rules from an early age. This is where discipline plays a key role in the life of a child.
Once a child begins to learn the rules they most likely also learn different ways to break the rules. There are two key things to remember when it comes to the implementation of rules. These elements include rewards and consequences. While it is important to teach our children what type of behavior we expect from them it is also important to let them know that we notice their behavior whether it is good or bad.
When a child displays good behavior by following the rules this should be noted by giving them various rewards. These rewards could include praise, additional play time, an extension on bed time or any other activity that the child enjoys. This helps the child to understand that regardless of their behavior it is noticed. All too often parents take it for granted when a child behaves as they should. This often leaves the child feeling as if the only way to get extra attention is by misbehaving.
In the same regard bad behavior should be equally noted. When a child exhibits behavior that you find unacceptable or inappropriate they should receive some sort of punishment. This lets them know that this behavior is unacceptable. Some common punishments that may be implemented may include imposing an earlier bedtime, taking away a favorite toy or activity or anything that the child finds displeasing.
When deciding how to punish a child it is important to let the punishment fit the crime. For example you wouldn’t want to punish a child for an extended period of time for something minor. Appropriate rewards and punishments are necessary for a child to develop properly and this is a large part of what makes up the structure of a stable home.